New Ways To Be Offended

Every day on the internet, on the streets and freeways of Orange County, on the news, at work, getting lunch, going to the grocery store, the gas station and more…I find things to be offended about. And I sadly know that is true for you too. It’s called, The World We Live In. Yes, you can also find positivity everywhere you look too. It just seems that it’s harder and harder to find those positive things.

responsibleadultWhen I turn on the TV, I hear the GOP candidates fighting, almost literally cat-fighting, with social media memes and picking on each others’ wives, name calling, and behavior any good mom knows is that of a truculent five year old. Even CNN’s Anderson Cooper pointed this out, telling one candidate, “That’s the answer of a five year old.” I can’t help but wonder what is happening to our country. And then I see responses to blog posts that remind me how damned childish people in this country are. No wonder we allow political candidates to behave so childishly when we can’t behave any differently on the internet.

So an author friend blogged about a publisher. The comments on the blog really reminded me of how childish people behave on the internet. To me, and I could be wrong, it appeared that some of these childish comments were not from the author’s usual readers and friends but by people, either staff, friends or authors, of the publisher. I’m not a fan of publishers or other people who send their “troops” to defend them on a blog they would never normally read. That, in and of itself, is an immature and classless way to act. If you’re a good publisher, you don’t need people to defend you. You take the high road and you ignore that stuff. It’s like ignoring bad reviews. Most authors don’t engage in arguing with readers over a bad review. We ignore them.

2614477212_ba712347ba_oI’ve been out of the blogging loop for a couple of years and I should have realized that this kind of thing still happens out here. I guess I forgot because, geez, those people that came over from the publisher to get their point across on the author’s blog, a blog they wouldn’t normally read, totally offended me. Like really pissed me off, offended me. That’s a new one for me!

I don’t know why a publisher would condone such behavior. The publishers I’ve been with have been much classier than that. I guess I’ve been lucky on that front, to have publishers that take the high road, that embrace diversity, that care for their authors and don’t want them to look like fools out on the internet.

UnbreakMe2_432I suppose I just found my positivity in that mess I read yesterday and this morning. I’ve been lucky in my publishing career to have publishers who care about me and my work, who are professional and behave in a professional manner.

That being said, I’m slowly getting back all my rights to my books at Jupiter Gardens. Unbreak Me will be back in my hands as of April 30. Not sure when it will go back out as a self pub, but it does have a revised cover.

Thank you for reading! Go forth and find the positivity in the middle of all the offensiveness out there!



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6 Responses to New Ways To Be Offended

  1. Nikki Prince says:

    Hi Lex,
    This is a great response to an issue that I’m sad to say won’t go away. We have the right to say what we want…and granted sometimes people shouldn’t say anything.

    But they do…

    I chose not to respond because as you said as an “author” we should know better.

    Maybe one day…”we will know better.”


    • Lex says:

      It’s sad that this kind of thing keeps happening. Hard to say if any of these authors learn a lesson from this. I know people were commenting on how distasteful their defense of the publisher was. I just hope they learn that this isn’t the way an author who wants a successful career behaves. Thanks for commenting, Nikki!

  2. Lex says:

    Kitty, some of the responders were authors, which makes me sigh. Authors, more than anyone, should know better than to get caught up in online fights of this nature. It only serves to make them look bad to other publishers, even if all they are doing is defending their publisher. And the people who were espousing their religious beliefs as a response to the original blog post, well, all I can say is that they only served to make themselves appear to not understand the issue. As authors, in order to appear professional, we should always stay out of this sort of thing. If you don’t know the blogger personally, you shouldn’t be posting volatile comments on their blog because it only serves to make you look bad. Group mentality isn’t necessarily a good thing. It’s always better (and more positive) to think for yourself, temper your speech in public and try to be professional. Thank you for commenting, Kitty!

  3. What would the world be like if we all took the high road, personally and professionally!

  4. Kitty says:

    Great post, Lex! I had a similar conversation this week with someone – how people act immaturely when they aren’t “in person.” I wonder if the comments from the publishing house were from a bunch of cubicle workers who went too far in the name of defending their company, who wouldn’t have done it individually, but got caught up in that awful group mentality that brings out the worst in us. That’s my positive thought for today – that maybe far more people than it seems don’t mean to be stupid. (LOL! I’m not sure – is that positive enough?!)