And Then It Got Ugly

Wasn’t it just a couple of weeks ago I posted about the art of winning arguments on the net? Uh huh. Some people did not read that post. Some people got in a big brouhaha over the weekend. Did I speak up? Yes, a little. Did I get in any arguments? Um, not really. Was I offended? HELL YES. And worst part of it all is that I tried really hard to follow my own advice and stay cool and professional and not instigate or reply to inflammatory statements and remarks.  I tried not to take anything personally cause nothing was directed at me with my name on it. And still I was offended.

BY BOTH SIDES

Yep. Everyone freaking offended me at some point or another. See, one group I’m on made a remark that offended the people on another group. That group in turn used the same remark to say something offensive about the first group. Sound a little 5th grade-ish? It was. And I’m probably going to burn in the hell of their loop when all the shark-mouthed typists get wind of this…both loops. Double crucifixion. I guess it means I get to come back twice from the dead on a Sunday. But only if they crucify a couple of thieves as well. And now, I’ll get raped over a barrel by a rhino for using the bible and Easter as an analogy of sorts. I just know I’m gonna get reamed. If I don’t…if they choose to ignore my inflammatory words…HUZZAH! THANK GOD! Because yanno, nothing inflammatory over the weekend was ignored. Every little nuance and syllable was scrutinized in case someone was picking on someone else.

Now, it’s true that the above words are a tad tongue in cheek. You see, I’m trying to find some bit of humor in all of this in order to restore my psyche to some sort of equilibrium. ‘Cause it really is true that both sides offended me. And the saddest thing is that last year I left one of the groups because a member offended me and a friend and was allowed to do so unchecked. I came back this weekend in a show of support because of an issue of discrimination. I’m not even there 2 full days and someone there offended me. Again!

You’d think I’d learn my lesson and just not join that group again. But I’m in for a penny (well $12.50 to be honest) so I might as well take a leaf from my own post of January 23 and let it go. So I am. And I’m not leaving this time. I want to see what happens. If I email the head of this group, she’ll probably tell me that the offenders didn’t mean to offend me. That’s probably true but it doesn’t take the sting away. Guess I’ll have to pull up my big girl panties and deal.

What did I come away from the weekend with? One, a heck of a lot of respect for a woman who started an RWA chapter under a lot of gunfire. Two, a healthy appreciation for two authors whose words and cool heads I have always admired. Three, my sense of humor…intact.

Everyone and their mother and brother and cousins five times removed are blogging about this brouhaha. People who aren’t in the organization are blogging about it. It’s ugly. I feel dirty from the fallout. And very, very sad.

Should I be blogging the political trail like the other authors? Maybe. But seriously, I think they have enough people spouting fire and brimstone. They don’t need me to jump on the blog-bandwagon. I’d rather do a Rodney King. Use my humor to make little cryptic remarks on my blog that not many people will understand and pretty much no one will understand 100% unless they ask me in an email. Which I will reply to. Right after work. 😉

I will do several things in support of what I feel is right though. One, I’m not leaving RWA, RRW or PAN. If things need changing, it ain’t gonna happen if all the movers and shakers take their toys and wallets and go home. Two, not gonna let any of em offend me to the point that I start considering leaving those three groups despite #1. Three, I’ll send whatever emails and letters I need to in order to assist in the call for RWA to make some policy changes so another brouhaha like this doesn’t happen. Four, gonna ignore the blogs by readers who are spouting fire and brimstone over something that is kinda, sorta not their bizness cause they aren’t RWA members or even authors trying to enter the contest in question. Five, not gonna take this stuff personally. I have a family to support therefore I need to sleep at night. Six, not dwell on this stuff. Which means it’s time for me to stop blogging about it in 5, 4, 3, 2, 1…

It’s Marcus Monday and have I got a yummeh one for you today!

 

Now, I’ve got to go to work.  You all try to have a good Monday and dodge the ugly, okay? 😉

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6 Responses to And Then It Got Ugly

  1. Cyn says:

    The RWA thangy I did send them an email just saying I was sad they thought to take out a genre that many people love. That was it. Sorry ppl made you mad. I hope almost a week after it all you are ok and smiling.

  2. Cyn says:

    The RWA thangy I did send them an email just saying I was sad they thought to take out a genre that many people love. That was it. Sorry ppl made you mad. I hope almost a week after it all you are ok and smiling.

  3. Kaje Harper says:

    Thanks for the picture and the cool head. Amazing how people online seem to lose the ability to have a rational discussion without a firestorm. I hope people work to resolve this, not trash each other over it. No question that people made wrong choices – but they’re not likely to alter them if you heap brimstone on their heads. Bad feeling between the groups just ends up hurting us all.

  4. Kaje Harper says:

    Thanks for the picture and the cool head. Amazing how people online seem to lose the ability to have a rational discussion without a firestorm. I hope people work to resolve this, not trash each other over it. No question that people made wrong choices – but they’re not likely to alter them if you heap brimstone on their heads. Bad feeling between the groups just ends up hurting us all.

  5. I haven’t been an RWA member for over a year mainly because they took my money and then ignored me, my books and dissed my publishers. *shrugs* I probably would have stayed, but it was a financial burden I couldn’t keep up for so little return.

    I’ve stayed out of it because I’m unwilling to trash RWA. So many authors are heavily involved in the organization and love it. That said, the RWA has a tendency to do and say close-minded things.

    Online kerfuffles. Ain’t they fun? LOL! Hang in there hon. Happy Monday.

  6. I haven’t been an RWA member for over a year mainly because they took my money and then ignored me, my books and dissed my publishers. *shrugs* I probably would have stayed, but it was a financial burden I couldn’t keep up for so little return.

    I’ve stayed out of it because I’m unwilling to trash RWA. So many authors are heavily involved in the organization and love it. That said, the RWA has a tendency to do and say close-minded things.

    Online kerfuffles. Ain’t they fun? LOL! Hang in there hon. Happy Monday.