Old and New

In IT news… the damn board still isn’t moved. I keep getting errors. I need the SQL database god to come and snap his fingers and make it all magically move to where it’s supposed to go. I’m paying hosting on a site that isn’t up because I can’t move the damn thing. I may have to pay someone to do this. You’re wondering what this has to do with my title, aren’t ya? I’m trying to move an OLD message board to a NEW domain and hosting company. But the fucker isn’t cooperating. Or I’m just not smart enough to do this.

Moving on to other more pleasant subjects… My eyes are old. Officially that is. Yes, the doc gave me NEW reading glasses. Normally, the OLD part woulda depressed me. However, I was just happy to see clearly again and stop suffering from extreme exhaustion and major headaches. Anything within reach of my arms is a little out of focus for me now. Over the counter glasses from Walgreens helped, but I started feeling sick all the time especially the more I wore them. Turns out one eye is worse than the other so my prescription glasses address that and the lenses are different not the same. I worked all weekend on edits and Ride the Lightning and wow! What a difference!

On a side note about Ride the Lightning, there’s a character named Dave in this book. He’s a Dom who runs a BDSM club called Far From Heaven. He’s also Magia, one of the magical community in the Darkworld, so basically… he’s a wizard. He bears a superficial resemblance to my favorite Dave, but has no monkey sidekick. Maybe I should change that. I mean, every wizard has a familiar right? The book is starting to pick up speed and Vahid is now determined to save his self-destructive mate Emily. I’ll have to post a snippet when I’m a little deeper into the story.

Something happened recently and I didn’t blog about it in part because I usually don’t delve into my past a whole lot here. Anyway, more than twenty years ago, when I was pregnant with Motley, someone showed me what it means to truly be a friend. Kim Williams is ten years younger than me, but the woman has a heart of gold. I spent my pregnancy sick, broke, depressed, upset, freaked out, and just about any other emotion you could name. I literally had nothing. And I was so sick I ended up in the hospital the last six weeks of my pregnancy. It was one of the worst times of my life. I thought I was gonna die.

Through it all Kim was there. She took me to the doctor. She organized all her friends and my friends and took donations. She had the guys paint the used crib my roommate found at a yard sale. I mean, it was amazing. It went far beyond her making me eat and nagging me to take my vitamins. Just remembering what she did brings tears to my eyes. I felt so incredibly alone during that period and she made a major effort to show me that I wasn’t. There are very few people from my past that I love and admire more than Kim.

Sadly, we lost touch over the years. Mostly since I came to Southern California and more so when I moved to Orange County. My life with Rott has had a lot of ups and downs. Dealing with it on a daily basis didn’t leave much left over for anything else. A couple weeks ago Kim’s high school had a reunion. Somehow, and I sorta forget how, I had an old friend of hers on my Facebook. At the reunion, friends talked Kim into getting on Facebook and that is how we found each other again. I saw the notice of the reunion photos on her friend’s account and went to look at the photos. And there she was. Looking a lot like her mom these days but still with the long beautiful blonde hair and big eyes I remembered.

I don’t think I can find the words to say what it meant to me to find her again. I’m a sucky ass correspondent. I don’t write. I don’t call. Hell, lately since Rott’s been home, I don’t even Twitter and I miss it a lot but there are just not enough hours in the day at the moment. Something I’m hoping to rectify soon so I can have a better balance with things and have some time to enjoy chatting with friends and blogging more about the weird shit in my life.

At any rate, I’m a bonehead about keeping in touch with people I care about especially when I’m under pressure. I missed Karl’s birthday. Haven’t called Hilly like I promised. Keep forgetting to send Dave his prize… but I’m trying to make a more conscious effort to not let friendships – old and new – fall by the wayside. Finding Kim again is an important milestone. I really can’t afford to lose more people in my life. If you want to see the woman who singlehandedly kept me together and made it possible for Motley to be here today, you’ll find her on my Facebook. Kim Williams-Potts. One of my oldest, and even though I might not show it putz that I am, dearest, dearest friends.

So now for some Marcus. I need some this Monday. It’s month end at work and payroll so I’ve got tons of work to do and while I love my job, I hate being in the pressure cooker. I really need a Marcus to ease the stress.

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That goofy little smile makes me laugh. Laughter is good for the soul I hear. So all of you have a chuckle at the expense of Marcus’ goofy smile and make your soul feel better. Have a great Monday!

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8 Responses to Old and New

  1. Vixen says:

    I am terrible about corresponding too. I so value my friendships, but I always let life’s catastrophes keep me from staying in touch. I too found an old friend from 12 years ago via FB (well, she found me). I am trying to make a better effort. I find I am tired of being alone.
    .-= Vixen´s last blog ..WW~“Nodding the head does not row the boat” =-.

  2. Vixen says:

    I am terrible about corresponding too. I so value my friendships, but I always let life’s catastrophes keep me from staying in touch. I too found an old friend from 12 years ago via FB (well, she found me). I am trying to make a better effort. I find I am tired of being alone.
    .-= Vixen´s last blog ..WW~“Nodding the head does not row the boat” =-.

  3. I’m familiar with this. I am SO bad at keeping relationships going.
    It feels like everyone I know is at a distance. Some of it is technology and some of it is just life.
    So cool you found such an awesome friend again.
    .-= Jennifer Leeland´s last blog ..Welcome =-.

  4. I’m familiar with this. I am SO bad at keeping relationships going.
    It feels like everyone I know is at a distance. Some of it is technology and some of it is just life.
    So cool you found such an awesome friend again.
    .-= Jennifer Leeland´s last blog ..Welcome =-.

  5. martymankins says:

    I had a friend that I didn’t know for too many years, but we hung out a lot. After my divorce, I lost touch with him. My ex-wife and I used to travel to see them in San Diego and we did a lot together.

    Trying to find him has been difficult. I’m hoping he’ll show up on Facebook at some point.

    But there has been others I’ve hooked back up with via Facebook and it’s been nice.

    So glad to hear this.
    .-= martymankins´s last blog ..Scooter Sunday – Season 2 Ep. 13 =-.

  6. martymankins says:

    I had a friend that I didn’t know for too many years, but we hung out a lot. After my divorce, I lost touch with him. My ex-wife and I used to travel to see them in San Diego and we did a lot together.

    Trying to find him has been difficult. I’m hoping he’ll show up on Facebook at some point.

    But there has been others I’ve hooked back up with via Facebook and it’s been nice.

    So glad to hear this.
    .-= martymankins´s last blog ..Scooter Sunday – Season 2 Ep. 13 =-.

  7. maryo says:

    Glad to hear you found an old friend. It is hard to keep friends when you got so much going on. I try to make an effort but sometimes it falls short. SSSSOOOOO…Hope you have a great day and from one putz to another LUV YA!!!

  8. maryo says:

    Glad to hear you found an old friend. It is hard to keep friends when you got so much going on. I try to make an effort but sometimes it falls short. SSSSOOOOO…Hope you have a great day and from one putz to another LUV YA!!!